5 Things to Remember When You’re Feeling Down

Hey all, so I decided to write this article because I feel like mental health is just as important as physical health and it is over looked or looked down upon often. I have recently came out of a long period of depressive thoughts and not thinking positive. So I thought I’d share some tips that I remind myself every time I’m feeling down or just thinking negative thoughts.

  • Your Goals and Aspirations
    • We all have some kind of goal in mind whether is be short term or something in the far future. Remind yourself why you’re getting up early each morning to go to school and taking countless classes. Remind yourself why you didn’t  splurge on that new purse you saw in the mall or that new car you have been eyeing. It is cause we all have something we are ultimately trying to reach. For me as a college student, one of my goals consist of graduating with good grades, and figuring out what I’m going to do after college. So I always remind myself of my future and the things I want to do both short and long term, to help keep me afloat.
  • Your Family and Friends
    • We all have people that we hold closely to our hearts and that we love dearly. Once in awhile when we are feeling upset or just can’t seem be to happy, reach out to someone that you trust, just to vent and talk about your feelings. Talking aloud about what you’re feeling has always helped me feel better. Plus it is always a good reminder to know that the people around you care about you and will always support you even in hard times.
  • Qualities about yourself
    • Everyone has their flaw and faults, and at times that’s all we can see or think about, and we don’t give much thought to what makes us unique and special. Think of compliments others have given you, such as did you get an A on that philosophy paper? Or did you receive a bonus at work recently because you have been working extra hard? Sometimes others can see our qualities better then we can. So it helps a lot either sit down and think about our qualities and the special things that others see in us, or even write everything down, so that you can come back to it and remind yourself of all of these positive things.
  • Hobbies
    • This has helped me numerous times take my mind off of something that was making me upset or drown out the negative thoughts. Find something that you really love doing simply for the passion of it. Trust me it’ll help you feel better because you are spending time doing something you love and you’re not thinking so much about whatever is putting you in a sad mood. For me, some of the things I love doing is blogging (of course), playing soccer, listening to music, and sometimes sketching. In addition if you don’t have a hobbie or you want to try something new, this is a great excuse to find something new. Try a new sport, go to yoga, or even try an art class!
  • Write it all down
    • Even if you don’t like writing or don’t see yourself as a good writer, it doesn’t matter. Being able to vent to yourself and go though all of your thoughts help you think more clearly and deeply about what has you down and solutions to making things better. As well as it helps you discover and learn about yourself. So I would suggest buying a journal or if not, if you having a few sheets of paper lying around, use that to write down your thoughts. Of course you wouldn’t need to show your writing to anyone, but yourself. You’re own personal journal that you can go back to anytime, and even to toss those bad thoughts away. Its up to you.

I want to thank you for reading and hope that some of my tips are of some use to you 🙂

xoxo Faraji

Beauty Benefits from Coffee

Coffee is one of those skin remedies we must have as women in our homes.. This is a great DIY project to do in the comfort of your own home to tighten up your skin.. I have used it I works wonders for my skin … if your having skin issues or want to get […]

via 6 Beauty benefits of coffee for your skin — The Antoinette Show

5 Tips For Shopping

  1. High End

Now we all know that brand names can be very expensive and out of the price range for many. Especially college students like myself. But when I am shopping at the mall, that doesn’t stop me from going into some of my favorite brand names stores. I thought I’d share with you a more recent experience. So I needed some new jeans, just because it was time for some new ones. So I went to the store most women my age go for some new jeans, Pacsun, Hollister, and American Eagle. All of which are some of my favorite places to shop but decided against buying jeans from them this time. So Finally before leaving I went into BeBe, one of my favorite brand name stores. Just my luck they were having a sale on jeans at 50%, so I was able to buy a pair of pants for the same price I was planning to pay for a pair of American Eagle. Which of course is preferred especially when you are talking about longevity and quality. To make a long story short, don’t be afraid to walk into some of your high end stores, because you may just find a fabulous deal.

 

 

  1. You don’t always need a Partner

I know we always tend to go shopping with someone, but I don’t always like it. Just for the simple fact sometimes I feel rushed, or if the person doesn’t like the stores that I enjoy shopping at, then I can be more “free” just to take my time going through stores and going to all of the places I enjoy going to. So occasionally I like to go shopping by myself, just because I can be able to take my time look around well.

 

  1. Try It On

I need to follow this advice more when I go shopping, as I am not a big fan of going in the dressing room to try on an outfit. Which has resulted in me buying something and it not fitting well or looking how I want it to when I get home. Save yourself the time and trip and try on whatever you are going to buy to make sure it looks good

 

  1. Keep An Open Mind

This is something I have more recently started doing, instead of going for styles or makeup colors I would normally get or makeup colors I have tried venturing from that. With wonderful result as well, being able to open yourself to new styles can open up variety and you can discover something that looks great that you would have never tried otherwise. So when I go shopping I try to pick up things that I have never worn before to see if I would like it or not.

  1. Coupons!

Nearly every time I go into the mall or a specific store, I check to see if they have any sales going on or if they have special coupons online. I create app that I use is called shopular, you can add most the store that you enjoy shopping at. One things that is helpful is that it sends you notifications only when you are near the store, if that store has a sale or coupons. So this helps save some dinero especially when shopping on a budget.

 

I hope that you enjoyed my article, so I haven’t posted in so long! Many new articles are in the works! Let me know some of your favorite stores or any shopping tips you may have!

xoxo Faraji

Girl Code: Sistas Before Mistas

 

I know this a bit different then what I normally write about, but I was inspired recently! I was out having fun with some of my girlfriends and guys keep trying to “talk” to us, then I came up with an idea to write about some basic girl codes, nearly all girlfriends have!

  1. Please don’t leave me alone!
    1. This is what I think is creepy, lol we come out to have a good time with each other! so no girl is left behind!! If so who know who is going to talk to them and and try to hit on them, with no not to rescue them! Also theres always the chance of getting separated!!
  2. Be Honest
    1. We have have our group/single girlfriends(boyfriends) that we trust and share everything with, that’s why we’re friends duh. But if my hairs messed up, food in my teeth, or if you think my shirt is on inside out, please let me know. We’re all here to depend on each other and look out for each other
  3. Creepy Guys are a No Go!
    1. If you see a guy is trying to talk to me/ hit on me and I give you “the look” Im asking you to come to the rescue!! Pull me away or something! I cannot tell you how many times this has happened to me! 90% of the time my girlfriends have gotten the hit and came to pull me away from the guy, but very few times I tried my best to turn the guy down, which I am very bad at!!
  4. Girls Night Are A Must
    1. every now and then you need a break from school, work, your boyfriend or husband, and hanging out with the ladies are always a good time and a stress reliever, and helps you talk about situations you’ve got going on, or just someone there to hear you out. If you and your girlfriends don’t have a girls night out I would highly suggest it! It’s always the best!!

Thats just a few girl codes that I have with my girlfriends, definitely not what everyone does, but I suggest it! And I love sharing! If you like post along these lines(lifestyle type). Please let me know and I’ll do more in the future! Thanks for Reading

xoxo Faraji